If you work with other people, sooner or later you will find yourself in conflict. Conflicts are inevitable in our workplace and can be a source of growth for individuals and teams. When mismanaged (or left unmanaged), however, they can become highly stressful and depleting.
Conflicts often have their source in perceived 鈥渄ifferences鈥�, based on our expectations of social interactions, such as our preferred ways of communicating (direct, indirect, task-oriented, friendly, etc.), how we think important values like 鈥渞espect鈥� or 鈥渇airness鈥� should be expressed, and how things 鈥渟hould be done鈥� properly in the workplace. Truth be told, our 鈥�shoulds鈥� are quite subjective and dependent on our state of mind, as well as on our accumulated experiences of life. And according to numerous studies on , we tend to seek out people who will agree with how we see the world, thus reinforcing our sense of 鈥渂eing right鈥�.
With great diversity in the workplace today (generational, cultural, religious, gender, etc.), learning to be more inclusive and appreciative of differences can dramatically increase shared learning, contribution and success in the workplace. And replacing 鈥渂eing right鈥� with 鈥渂eing curious鈥� about other points of view certainly reduces the chances of serious conflict escalating.
Suffice to say that in times of stress and uncertainty, opportunities for misunderstandings, mistrust and reactivity increase in us all. So do opportunities for conflict. As we strive to adapt to our post-pandemic 鈥渘ew normal鈥� workplace, self-awareness and compassion for ourselves and others will be vital. This does not mean 鈥渁voiding conflicts鈥� but rather seeing differences with curiosity and openness. We all react to stress differently, and we are all doing our best.
One key to managing conflict in a healthy manner includes encouraging an environment where open, honest communication is encouraged and modeled by leadership and supported by team members. Why not encourage a psychologically safe workplace where diverse employees at all levels feel free to speak openly about work issues without fear of reprisal? This is foundational to McGill becoming a healthy workplace where we can all engage in continuous learning and make a difference.
Another important factor to healthy conflict management is knowing your own 鈥榗onflict style鈥� and how you typically deal with conflict. Do you face conflict head-on or do you withdraw? Do you look for win/win, or opt for win/lose? Whatever your style, self-awareness is key to learning how to manage conflict in a healthy way. Check out the resources below to help you on your journey toward healthy conflict management and greater self-awareness.
It is important to remember that conflict is natural and happens in every ongoing relationship. Rather than seeing conflict as negative, what if we viewed conflict as a catalyst for learning and positive change? Managing conflict in healthy ways can strengthen self-confidence and relationships, enabling individuals and teams to move to a deeper, more authentic level of communication and higher levels of performance.
Organizational Development鈥檚 Resources to Support Your Learning:
In this session participants will gain a greater understanding about their own responses to conflict as well as when they need to adapt or change styles to achieve better outcomes
In this session participants will explore internal and external barriers to conflict and learn how to prepare for a conversation that is clear, meaningful, and effective.
Take a relaxing time out to better understand what stress is and the impact that it has on you and your team. Recognize the current stressors in your work life. Learn some strategies and techniques to help you better manage your stress today, and to limit the impact of stress in the months ahead.听
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Online LinkedIn Learning Modules relating to Conflict:
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For more information about Coaching Ourselves Modules contact: angela.morse [at] mcgill.ca
Other resources available at McGill Library:
: How to Discuss What Matters Most
Authors: Douglas Stone 1958- (Author), Sheila Heen (Author), Bruce Patton (Author)
: How to Work with People You Don't Agree with or Like or Trust
Authors: Adam Kahane (Author), Jeff Barnum (Illustrator)